May you be blessed with good friends,
and learn to be a good friend to yourself
Journeying to that place in your soul where
There is love, warmth, and feeling.
May this change you.
May it transfigure what is negative, distant,
Or cold within your heart.
May you be brought into real passion, kindness,
May you treasure your friends.
May you be good to them, be there for them
And receive all the challenges, truth and light you need.
May you never be isolated but know the embrace
Of your anam cara.
Last weekend my good friend Tina and I took a rather long road trip north to Vermont to visit another good friend of mine, Kristin, newly moved to Burlington from Portland. It was indeed a whirlwind weekend, bookended by many, many hours in the car. All of it flew by in a flash, and yet seemed to go on for ages as well. That’s the thing about friendship. It’s a time bending endeavor.
We laughed harder than we had in ages. We cried at the shared human experience. We talked of art and politics, motherhood and menopause. We dreamed artful ideas which seem ever more real when discussed with our anam cara, our soul friends.
It was a blessing to see my old friend in her new neighborhood, which finally seems like a place she and her family can settle for the long term. It was an equal blessing to have my other old friend along for the drive, which due to our chit-chat and shared reading and pondering and wonderment, seemed not to be a long drive at all.
But the best blessing of all is that these two now know each other truly, having only met in passing before now. It was like we had all known each other our whole lives. Which, perhaps, we have.
It’s worth working on friendships, in spite of or perhaps especially when, life gets in the way.